Tonight as I listened to my students who attend the advanced ESL class, it became very apparent how each wants to be part of main stream Canadian society. They want to know where the good restaurants (frequently visited)are, what to order from the menu, where to go to get a tennis racquet, how to play Hearts. They don't want to be the one outside the knowing circle. Because so many come from China, they are afraid to stick out - to be individuals. They are reluctant to voice their opinions fearing retribution or worse social isolation.
One wanted to know what Canadians like to talk about during their breaks. She was so earnest in her desire to "know" what to say and to feel part of a social network. She asked about children's games - hopscotch and clapping rhymes - she wanted to know what movie stars Canadians like and what things interest us.
While each is very proud of their culture and heritage, they do want to embrace this culture where they are rearing their children.
I wish that I could have a Canadian family take one of them under their wing - invite them to family outings, include them in making the garden, share with them a meal they prepare together. For what is particularly clear to me since I started teaching ESL a year ago, they have so much to offer. My life is so much richer from their earnest examples. I have laughed with them. Mostly I have observed our shared humanity. Making room for them in my heart has enlarged it.
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