Me: Do you ever invite anyone to come over?
UTBM: Oh no. I'm too busy. I have that puzzle to finish.
UTBM: What is that noise?
Me: The dishwasher.
UTBM: What is that?
Me: An avocado.
UTBM: What do you do with that?
Me: I make a salad with kale and lemon.
UTBM: Things sure are different now aren't they?
UTBM: I've worked really hard so God will forgive me. I used to be a really bad person. I smoked, I drank and I swore. But I don't do any of those things now. Do you think God will forgive me?
Me: You're a good woman Mom. I'm sure He has already.
UTBM: Well I wish He would hurry up and come and get me.
Me: Let's go buy some fruit and vegetables Mom.
UTBM: Oh can't we just stay here and work on this puzzle? This is a really good puzzle.
I give her a handful of dark chocolate covered M and M peanuts.
UTBM: What's this?
Me: They are M and M's.
UTBM: Oh this is really good. What did you call them?
As we drive down the street and she finishes her last candy: "What did you call that candy?"
UTBM: Couldn't I just live with you? I don't like it where I am. I have no friends. But you don't want me do you?
I ignore her as we drive towards the grocery store. She's right: I don't want her to live with me, but I don't want her to feel that nobody wants her either. How lonely she must feel.
At the end of our shopping, I drop her off. I give her a kiss on the lips, tell her I love her. She has chocolate in the corners of her mouth. She waves goodbye and tells me again "I sure miss you.
2 comments:
I find this very interesting:
"you don't want me do you?"
"She's right: I don't want her to live with me"
This problem seems to come up in many contexts. What do you tell a child when you don't want to play with them, or a friend that you don't want to hang out with?
Sometimes the truth is a good choice, but not always.
I am worried about not having friends myself when those lonely days arrive. Chocolate in the corners of my mouth - I will also be in the puzzle room. You are so good to her Bonnie.
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